RELATIONSHIP REPAIR

We tend to delay facing up to the problems in our relationships, and leave it to the last minute to seek help.  Seek advice before it is too late to repair the relationship.

As we walk the road of life, we will all experience many kinds of relationships. We seek all sorts of advice when we are experiencing hard times in a relationship. We sometimes need help understanding the other persons in our relationships, recognizing their needs, wants and faults. I have always said that close relationships will be the hardest jobs we will endeavour to find success at, as these relationships have to be worked on everyday.  As our relationships progress, sometimes we forget what attracted us to the other person. You can seek Relationship Advice and Dating Advice, but the question to sometimes ask of the people giving the advice is: "Have you walked the walk of troubled relationships to be able to talk the talk?".
When seeking a successful relationship in all areas of your life, you need to look at your compatibility in the four main areas of personal relationships, that is: Physical, Spiritual, Intellectual and Emotional.

For a successful relationship to develop when two people meet, it’s about chemistry, and chemistry is something we can not fake.  When you meet it is something that you feel, it's not about compassion like you have for family, friends or animals.

When your relationship is new, you want to be able to live up to all the expectations of your new companion, sometimes you can loose your own identity trying to achieve a perfect relationship. What you need to do is learn how retain your own identity.  Some people need to remember that we need to experience the highs and lows in all our relationships to be able to grow in the four areas of relationship.  Understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person, and therefore, a perfect relationship.

It takes time to understand the changes that all relationships go through, and to recognize the signs when something is missing in the relationship. As we advance into a long relationship, things change such as careers, children, finances etc.  How we cope with changes can make or break your relationship.

When you stop paying attention to your companion, because you become so involved in your own circle of concern, this is when your companion might start searching for someone else to fill that void. This is where I come in, to help you to recognize the signs that you need to reignite the chemistry and passion that both of you experienced at the beginning of your relationship.
 

Questions to ask yourself,

• Is the flame of chemistry dying between the two of you?
• Do you or your companion take the time to talk about the day he or she had?
• Do you or your companion have a multitude of excuses for not making love?
• Do you or your companion put work or family before each other?
• Do you or your companion kiss and cuddle before they or you go to work?
• How do you and your companion react when your companion isn't interested in making love?
• Do you both seek to understand and talk about issues, or do you ignore them and start looking for attention elsewhere?
• Have you or your companion become elusive and hard to understand?

Do you know where to start in dealing with different issues and what to say to your companion to reignite the intimacy between the two of you?
Are you having difficulty communicating your needs and hopes for the relationship?
Has your self-confidence slipped away or been overshadowed by your companion?

We human beings are amazing and mysterious creatures.  When we enter a relationship, most companions are showered with romantic gestures, and there is the thrill of spontaneity.
As we progress into a life-long companionship, sometimes we can become too predictable. To help mend the cracks in your relationship, start making romantic gestures out of the ordinary, so your companion does not know what to expect next.
Communicate issues of concern to you, with your companion and listen to their response. If you agree with your companion all the time, it can appear that you are really not listening, or you don’t really care about the issues of concern, so the way you respond is very important.

Take notice of the issues both of you are arguing about, try to prevent the arguments, and don’t get too serious, in case either one of you says things you might regret later.  If your companion starts an argument, listen well, and then go away and think about what was said and then respond with calmer emotions. When your companion won’t listen to your response, then you have a problem. This is when its time to seek advice.

After a troubled time of a relationship break-up, our self esteem is low, and when we decide to venture into another relationship, a question we might ask ourselves is why that person chose us, when we think others of our gender are more beautiful or more sexy or more intelligent than ourselves.  Really, what we have is chemistry with this person, and some degree of compatibility in the four areas; "physical, spiritual, intellectual and emotional needs".

What many people don’t recognize about a relationship break-up is that the ending or passing over requires you to grieve the death of the relationship.  There are 7 stages of grieving and we need time to deal with parting. With the ending of a relationship we leave a part of ourselves behind. Take the time to rediscover the person you were before the relationship and rediscover the strengths and weaknesses in yourself.  Reinforce your strengths, and reward yourself with special treats as you progress through the different stages of your grieving.  Acknowledge your weakness and gather knowledge so you don’t keep making the same mistakes in future relationships.

On meeting a new companion, he or she may try to impress you by telling you their wants and needs, but this may not be what your new companion really want or needs in this relationship. People are only human, most of the time, when entering a new relationship we are guarded as we are afraid of letting our true feelings show, because we have to be tough to survive the demands of different and new relationships.

My Relationship Repair Advice will give you the understanding you need to find and keep that special companion who has entered your life. Through my life experience, I will endeavour to help anyone who has recognized the cracks appearing in their relationship.